Some parents have a hard time communicating with their children from a very young age. Others never have a problem until the teen years.
Feeling disconnected with your children won’t change unless you make the effort to really talk to them. If it feels really awkward or forced maybe you are going about it wrong or simply have bad timing. Whatever the case is, if you are dealing with communication challenges these tips will help.
Identify when your child is most open to talking. It may be at bedtime, stuck in traffic, or breakfast. Be available to them during these times.
Schedule a one-on-one activity weekly. Whether you have one child or five, they should have one-on-one time with you where no one else is around.
Repeat what they say before responding. This will let them know you were paying attention and understood what they were saying.
Create a comfortable environment. If you are having a craft day, or working on a puzzle, put on some good music and light your tabletop fireplace. A dancing flame naturally creates a comfortable environment where they will be more open to talk.You can find tabletop fireplaces online at stores like EthanolFireplacePros.com.
Don’t respond until they are finished explaining their point, even if you don’t like, or agree with what they are saying.
Take an interest in their interests, so you have common ground topics to use to spark a conversation.
Never belittle their feelings, or tell them they are wrong. It is okay to disagree, but they feel the way they do for a reason, and it is not necessarily wrong just because you don’t agree.
Don’t always feel as though you have to give advice or make a decision for them. Sometimes they just need an ear to listen to them so they can work things out on their oven.
Keep your reaction calm, even if it means you have to count to 100 a dozen times. If you appear defensive or angry, their selective hearing will kick in, and they will tune you right out.
Don’t say something you are going to regret later. Just because they say something hurtful to you doesn’t mean you should respond accordingly so they can see how it feels.
Stop what you’re doing and listen if they say they need to talk. They may not be so willing to talk later just because it is a more convenient time for you.