This is when they start rolling their eyes, talking back, and getting an attitude over the smallest things. If you haven’t picked up a floor water feature yet from an online store like Indoor Fountain Pros, now is the time. You are going to need something to calm your nerves while you count to 10 over-and-over again.
1. Don’t Overreact – In many cases, tweens are simply trying to get a reaction from you. If you don’t overreact or let them know you are bothered they will likely get bored and stop trying to push your buttons. This is easier said than done because everyone has a breaking point.
2. Dig Deeper – Are they getting an attitude with you simply because they are feeling bratty, or is something else going on? Could they be getting bullied at school or struggling to keep up in class? Maybe they had a fight with their best friend. The attitude could be a reaction to disappointment or stress, too.
3. Spend Time Together – A couple years ago, they were content to have craft day or spend the evening playing games with you. Well, if you want to stay connected, you may need to come up with new ways for the two of you to spend time together to keep the lines of communication open.
4. Encourage Extracurricular Activities – Tweens active in extracurricular activities have less time to work on perfecting their attitude. They are more fulfilled and social, and they are less likely to do drugs or smoke. Just make sure that they are not so busy that their grades suffer or their sleeping pattern is affected.
5. Praise a Positive Attitude – When your tween acts favorably make sure you acknowledge and praise it. Use specific praise so they know exactly why you are happy.
6. Follow Through – If they know the rules and break them, you should follow through with their consequences. For example, if you have told them that they’ll get their phone taken away for 24 hours if they mumble under their breath at you again, you need to follow through. Otherwise, they won’t believe there are going to be consequences for their actions.
7. Listen – Tweens often feel as though they’re not being listened to. It is important to let them know you respect their opinion and their honestly. This doesn’t excuse undesirable behavior, but it does give you the chance to determine if there is something you are not being told.